A lot can happen in a week! One week ago today, Trevor and I jetted off to the Bahamas for a few days to celebrate our anniversary. We booked this trip a while ago, long before we knew that I would need to have a lumpectomy. We thought about cancelling the trip but after confirmation from my oncologist and surgeon decided to go. Thank god we did!! We have been on many vacations since the kids were born but never any without the kids with the sole purpose of relaxing. Relaxing is just what we did!! We were the quintessential beach bums and loved every minute of it. This trip could not have come at a better time and to have the ability to clear our heads, relax and reconnect made the trip perfect!!

We returned home Sunday evening and bright and early Tuesday morning I reported for my lumpectomy. Alarmingly calm the morning of the surgery-even opting not to take the anxiety meds that I had been given. Getting to the hospital was easy and I even had the energy to confront a woman who cut the registration line!! HAHA- old habits die hard- even on surgery day!! All was fine until two nurses had a hard time getting my IV in. After three attempts, many bruises and an emotional breakdown from me, my IV was in and I was ready to go to the operating room. It was all a blur after that! I woke up a few hours later in the recovery room- very groggy and sore. Trevor and Sarah were brought in to meet me and they confirmed that the surgeon said all had gone well. Soon after we were on our way home! All before noon!

I am surprised at how good I feel. Aside from being very sore at the incision site, I feel good and am even starting to get bored being at home all day!! I will have to wait a week to see what comes back with the pathology reports and have to take it easy for the next couple of weeks- which honestly may be the hardest part for me. Thank you for all of the well wishes!

 

XO

 

 

When Trevor and I got married 10 years ago (more on that in a minute), someone told me to take a step back at our wedding and take a moment to look around at all of the people who came out to share our day and love with us.  I have spread this advice to several of my friends over the years as they themselves got married. The other night at our 2nd Annual Fundraiser, I took a moment to do just that; step back for a minute, look around the room at the wonderful people who surround and support us and reflect on everyone who donated – their time, raffle items and money. Thinking of the support that surrounds my family and I, gives me peace. Peace in knowing that when times get tough or tougher, we will have many to lean on and the memories that we share will carry on with all of you.

This years fundraiser was a little tough for me. My heart really wasn’t into it. To be quite honest, I am sick of having, talking about and raising money for cancer. It is all consuming. It takes up my everyday. Sometimes I think that if I stop talking about it, it will go away. Then all of you come in to play. So many people reached out, early on in the year, to see what the date of the event would be so you could mark it in your calendars. So many people came to me with ideas and raffle items. So many people reached out to see how they could help. Like I have said before you are all the force behind our strength in this battle and for that I can never express my gratitude. You remind me that all that WE are doing is worth it and is important. You all made this event what it was and it was AMAZING!

I want to say a special thank you to the following people:

Metacomet Country Club: for allowing us back this year, for taking amazing care of us and providing us with great service and food.

Laura Anderson: Laura organized and ran the beer and wine tasting. When I could not get any wine vendor to help us out or even return my calls, Laura stepped in and made it happen!!!

Zach Kahn: Zach thank you for being the best DJ and friend. You were amazing and kept us all dancing all night long. A big thanks also for putting up with your crazy requests!!

Lauren Brady: Lauren thank you for all of the brainstorming sessions and chats we have leading up the event and for all of your help the day of getting everything set up. You are the best friend, sister and therapist a girl could ask for.

Nicolle, Michelle, Carolina, Beth & Sarah: You ladies are the best friends a girl could ever have. You take care of business during the event and I am thankful that I have you all to lean on; with fundraising and in life.

There are so many more, but to name you all would be impossible. We raised close to $15,000 this year and after paying all of the expenses we are going to be able to donate over $10,000 to the Jimmy Fund. Again a huge thank you to everyone that donated!! We had some amazing raffle and auctions items this year and I truly appreciate everyone that contributed!!!

There was one person I did not mention earlier: TREVOR. Sometimes in this whole ordeal whether it be me having Cancer or the fundraising aspect- Trevor does not get the recognition that he deserves. Trevor is the calm to my storm. He talks me down off of my crazy ledges when it is late at night and I am surrounded by fundraising tasks and raffle items have taken over our dining room!Trevor and I met at UMass Dartmouth (or more specifically the Complex!) when we were just 19 years old. We dated on and off throughout college and basically grew up together. When we got married 10 years ago (May 17, 2008!) we never realized that our wedding vows would be tested so much in such a short amount of time. For  better or worse, for richer or poorer and now in sickness and health. This whole thing is not easy on a couple and sometimes I believe that me having cancer is harder on Trevor than it may be on me. We are not perfect but we are perfect for each other. Happy Anniversary my friend and love and I hope that we are blessed with at least ten more together.

 

 

 

 

 

No not ME! Cancer. Cancer is the worst B**ch there is. It sucker punches you when you least expect it.

A couple of months ago I started having a strange pain in the side of my chest, near the original site of discomfort where I was originally diagnosed. I brought it up with my doctor at my appointment in March and she ordered scans for my next appointment.

I reported for these scans yesterday morning. Bright and early with my first appointment being at 6:50. I had my normal CT, Bone Scan etc.  and then waited for my doctor to deliver the news.  You sit waiting for the results knowing there is nothing that you can do. It is what it is, I guess. I find myself saying a lot lately- “you can do nothing about the situation just how you react”. Well when the doctor walks in the room to deliver your results,   You can instantly tell which way this news is going to go.

Well my cancer journey has hit its first road bump. While my bones remain stable the original tumor in my breast has started to grow. This sneaky cell in my body has now started to outsmart the medicine I am on in an effort to grow.

Since I am doing so well on this line of treatment and this is considered a small road bump in the world of cancer- I am going to have this sneaky cell cut out! I will have a lumpectomy in a few weeks. We are hoping that by cutting this tumor out of my body, the medicine will continue to keep me stable and buy me more time on my first line of treatment.

This whole thing is an unbelievable roller coaster. For the past two years I have come to grips that my own body is trying to kill me and I have to fight that everyday. I have adjusted my life to let this new disease takes its place. Now two years later THIS. It is a sucker punch in the stomach. A wake up call.  I had gotten a little complacent with my disease. Not watching what I am eating as much, not taking care of myself like I should have. Well I am awake again and realize that I am not invincible.

People always tell me “you are so strong”. News FLASH- I don’t have a choice. I am not strong. I don’t want to be strong. I don’t want to deal with this. This will never get easier and it sucks. No matter how routine it all gets it NEVER gets easier.

 

Hi Everyone,

The 2018 2nd Annual Cabral’s Crusaders fundraiser is 4 short weeks away!! EEK!!! If you haven’t already, please purchase your tickets via this blog under the Menu tab!

We have a great night planned complete with appetizers, a craft beer tasting, so many wonderful raffle and silent auction items, a great DJ and so many wonderful people coming together!!

I am so fortunate to have so many wonderful people in my life who truly care and have taken on this cause, my cause, as their own. I am thankful for each and every one of you every day but feel the love especially with all of the help that has rolled in putting this event together! I look forward to seeing and celebrating with all of you in a few weeks.

When I was first diagnosed, I was assigned a social worker from DFCI. I believe that this is normal course for anyone diagnosed with cancer, especially Stage 4! Through this social worker they provided me with information for various foundations that provide help to cancer patients. One of those foundations was the Joe Andruzzi foundation. A wonderful organization providing so much help to so many cancer patients. They had recently asked me if I would like to share my story at a fundraiser they were having and to be their guest speaker.  At the time I did not feel that I was ready. Believe it or not sharing my story and speaking in front of everyone is something that terrifies me. Funny b/c sitting behind my computer, typing on this blog has become second nature and I don’t really hold much back!! I am hoping that one day soon I will be ready to speak and share my story with many more. They then asked if I would like to be interviewed for a patient profile and story. I obliged and the rest is history. Please find the link to my story below:

https://joeandruzzifoundation.org/somerset-mom-fights-stage-4-breast-cancer-to-be-there-for-her-kids/

Happy Easter! May you all have a blessed day with the ones you love.

XO

 

 

Most women my age have their “monthly maintenance” routines. Hair, nails, facials, maybe some botox. Well while I try to do some of those things as well…..but also do not have the time and $$ for most of it; MY monthly maintenance also consists of my monthly trip to DFCI. My  labs, appointments, shots, infusions etc. All part of my “normal” routine!! Almost two years in and it is all still so crazy to me. This month my appointment fell on Valentine’s Day. So romantic, right! Well while I was sitting in the infusion chair, a volunteer at DFCI came over and asked me if I would like a hand massage, which I loved while another volunteer passed me a chocolate heart while wishing me a Happy Valentines Day!! Truly wonderful people that work and volunteer their time at the clinic.

I also observed while in the waiting room two women. One who was starting her treatment, flanked on each side by her husband and a woman who I assume to be her sister or friend. A social worker and nurse explaining the treatment and what to expect. I also observed another woman with her husband and college aged daughter. They looked like it was their first appointment. The woman looking disheveled and in a state of shock while her daughter was taking notes and trying to hold it all together for her parents. I have been in both of those positions and sat reflecting on how scary those first few appointments are…..and while they get easier and more routine they always remain scary as you just never know where this cancer journey is going to lead you.

After what seemed like the longest winter and one that was tough for us, I was torn on whether or not to hold the Cabral’s Crusaders fundraiser this year. I am tired……and just wasn’t sure if I was up for it. I also don’t want to keep “pushing” MY cause in people’s faces and I hope and believe that I am in this for the long haul and I don’t want people to get sick of doing these fundraisers and walks. BUT, many people have reached out to me to check when the date is, how they can help, ideas for this year etc. This lit my fire up again and plans for this years event have quickly started to come together. This year’s fundraiser will be held on Friday, April 27th at Metacomet Country Club. A DJ has been lined up and I expect another fun night filled with friends, family, dancing, drinks and lots of money raised for a really great cause!!! I hope that you will all join us again this year and if you would like to help out in any way or would like to donate a raffle item, please let me know.

 

Happy New Year everyone!

We kicked off this new year with a 10 1/2 hour day at Dana Farber last week complete with scans, waiting  and good news. My cancer continues to remain stabilized and my first line of treatment continues to work! Let’s hope that I continue down this path for the remainder of the year.

I am personally in a really weird place with my cancer. The appointments at DFCI are becoming very routine. I am on a first name basis with certain nurses and techs at the center. I am starting to recognize some of the other patients that are on the same schedule as I am. Things are getting a little too “normal” for me. This past appointment, while waiting patiently for my appointment, I met a woman who had Metastatic Breast Cancer like me. She had been in remission for 11 years only to have her cancer come back this past May. We got to chatting and when she had found out that I was diagnosed almost TWO years ago, was on the same treatment as her and was feeling pretty good. She told me that I gave her hope …….so awesome but so weird. I remember turning to Sarah and Trevor and saying, “I cannot believe that this is my life”. I can’t. Some days I still think that this is some kind of weird test and someone eventually is going to say “JUST KIDDING” you were tested, you passed and now you can move on and live your life…..a long life. Unfortunately, I know that will not happen, but wouldn’t it be nice!

I also cannot believe that I am almost at the two year mark. It’s weird now b/c a lot of people know about my situation but I continue to meet new people….mainly through my kids and the activities that they are in. I struggle with- Do I tell these new friends right off the bat what is going on? Do I wait for a good time- but is there ever really a good time? It’s funny b/c having cancer is not something that generally comes up naturally in conversation.  I find myself very unnaturally blurting it out at the most inappropriate time. Kind of funny when I look back on the situations where this happened but also just plain sad and makes me feel very self conscience. I hope that I am given the time to get comfortable with this and how to share my story better.

After surviving the holidays, frozen pipes, a flooded finished basement, snow storms and cancer scans, the Cabral family is headed to warmer grounds (well we hope it is warmer by the time we get there) to make some Disney magic!!

We hope that 2018 is wonderful for all of our friends and family and that you are brought much happiness and good times.

 

XO

 

 

 

 

 

I wanted to take a moment and wish everyone a Happy Thanksgiving! I hope that you have a wonderful day surrounded by people that you love and who love you!

I am thankful this year for many of the obvious things: Trevor, Quinn and Colin being the #1 people that I am thankful for. Without them this fight would not be worth any of it. I am thankful for the wonderful people who surround us and show us true support, friendship, family and love. I am thankful that I continue to feel well and that my treatment is still working. Most of all I am thankful for TIME. Thankful that I got another year……another year to celebrate many things and make amazing memories. My kids are getting older and changing constantly and I am thankful that I am here to be a part of it all.

I try not to burden anyone with how I truly feel (mostly mentally, as physically I am pretty good) but as you can imagine the mental aspect of this disease is probably the hardest fight. I recently read through all of my doctors notes (something that I do not recommend to anyone!) and one doctors not stuck with me the most: “Patient struggles with the uncertainty of her diagnosis.” This is my biggest struggle. I am part of many online groups full of woman who are going through what I am. Sadly, they are the ones that really know what I am going through since they themselves are in the same situations. Every day I am riddled with news of who passed away that week, news of people near the end, updates from husbands letting everyone know how kids are doing since their mom passed. It is a scary world to be a part of but I am very thankful that I have these “friends” to vent to, ask questions to and who help me realize that there is come hope through all of this.

Happy Thanksgiving.

XO

 

 

Recently Quinn started the first grade. For days (maybe even weeks) before the first day of school Trevor and I causally started talking about going back to school. New teacher, new class, new routine. Quinn would always reply to us that she is fine and basically that going to first grade is no biggie for her. Until…..the first day of school when my “tough” little 6 year old burst into tears and started asking about all of the things we had tried to talk to her about. Luckily she (and I) made it through the first day and she is thriving in first grade. I couldn’t help but feel sad for her though b/c I handle things in the same way. I put on my brave face, tell everyone I am fine until…. I can’t anymore. Then my flood gates open. The tears can’t be stopped and I cannot get out of my own head.

For whatever reason this is currently happening. My emotions are all over the place.  I  think that the overwhelming emotions of the walk and everything leading up to it hit me hard. Words cannot express how proud, thankful and amazed I am by our team and the amount of money we raised (OVER $36,000!!!!). We took on the streets of Boston, on a really hot day and we conquered it together! Two members of our team even conquered the whole 26.2 miles!

Looking at our team of 43 registered members and almost 85 people walking, my heart bursts. It bursts because I am thankful to be so loved. I am honored to walk alongside all of you for such a great cause. I am happy to see all of our friends and family come together. But I am also sad. While the walk is an amazing thing, I hate that we are there walking for me. I am sad that my face is on a Jimmy Fund sign because I have cancer. Most of all I am angry. Angry that cancer is taking and going to take so many things away from me. After such an amazing weekend, I am almost ashamed to feel so sad right now but this is me being honest and vulnerable.

I also had my 18th doctors visit at Dana Farber this week. All continues to look good and stable.  I am getting new supplements to deal with the bone pain I have been having, which is a side effect of one of my medications. Hopefully, I will start to feel less stiff and old. The overactive hot flashes I have been dealing with lately are attributed to my more chaotic schedule and this insanely hot weather for September! We move on to the next month and the 19th cycle!!

I know this post is sort of all over the place and that is b/c right now I am sort of all over the  place. Please know that I can never express how truly thankful I am for all of the love and support that people show me, not only for the walk, but on a daily basis.  I feel truly lucky to have so many wonderful people in my life. It brings me comfort to know that my family has so many people to lean on.

I put together the slide show from walk day. Hope you all enjoy! Until next time……

A couple of notes on the slideshow:

• Make sure to click HD on the bottom right corner so it is clear
• If you cannot hear the music, click on the volume button on the bottom right corner and then click it a second time and the song should be audible!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

I have always felt like the end of summer/start of fall as a “new year”. In large part because everyone is going back to school and summer vacations are over and it feels like things “get moving” again. Work is busier, life is busier with soccer, dance, school and all the other things that come along in a day. Next week I get to see my kids start first grade and preschool (again!). They had an amazing summer at ‘Camp Grampy” but I think they are ready (and I know I sure am) for them to get back into a routine at school. I also think my dad is happy to get some peace and quite back!

Our summer was action packed and we made some really wonderful memories. We had an amazing time at Saco where I learned I have a love of nature and the serenity of being out on the river! We traveled to Sesame Place and Hershey park. We camped out in the Berkshires- I am becoming quite the nature girl. If only I could pack up a portable shower, I would be all set! We spent so many days laying by our pool with so many great friends and even had a few beach days. All in all a great summer.

This past Monday I had my  appointment for my next set of scans. Another long day, most of which is just waiting. Our day of scans looks something like this:

7:15- Labs

8:00- Radioactive Injection for bone scan

8:30- CT Check in and prep

9:30- CT

11:00- Bone Scan

2:00- Dr. Appointment to review scans

3:00- treatment

See all that time in between- you guessed it: WAITING!!!

Oh well though, I would wait a hundred hours for good news. Good news is what I got!! Thankfully I continue to be stable. Disease is controlled without any progression. So we continue on the same path. Thank God!

Earlier this year, I was approached by the Jimmy Fund to be a 2017 Jimmy Fund Hero. Upon first approach, I said no thank you, give it to someone who truly deserves it. My rep at the Jimmy Fund, Jenny laughed and said “April, you truly deserve it.” While that may be true in some eyes, in my eyes, I am no hero. I am merely doing what I can to get through this. Some days are easier than others. Most days when I allow myself to think about it all, I cry. I believe that if I can continue to have the mental power over this disease then I can continue to be the force of this fight and not this cancer.

If you would like to join our walk team please visit:

www.jimmyfundwalk.org/2017/cabralscrusaders

If you would like to make a donation to my page please visit:

www.jimmyfundwalk.org/2017/aprilcabral

To view the 2017 Jimmy Fund Hero slideshow please visit:  https://youtu.be/tYzfJ-trBxE

 

 

I write this post today from my chair in the infusion room at Dana Farber. It is almost 11:30 am and so far today I have already gotten up and ready, woke up the kids and got them ready for the day, drove in 2 hours of traffic to get to the clinic ,had my labs drawn and an IV put in, was examined, and now I am getting my infusion and Lupron shot. I even managed to sneak some work emails in there too! Not even noon, and a pretty productive but average day in the life of a cancer patient.

Thankfully all still looks good in the world of MY cancer. Labs are good, tumor is small and we continue on. I sit in this infusion room and the waiting room surrounded with other cancer patients. Some of whom you can tell have been in this “game” for a while and some who have the look of worry on their face, maybe from a new diagnosis or bad news. Some patients look like the “typical” cancer patient- bald. Many others look like “normal” people that you could never tell had cancer just by looking at them. Being here at DFCI always amazes me and really puts things into perspective for me.

Trevor, the kids and I have an action packed summer coming up and we look forward to keeping cancer in the background of our lives. We look forward to making great memories and having some fun as a family.

I leave you with this: “Kindness is like a Boomerang, it always comes back to you!” I read this quote on one of the kids juice boxes a few weeks ago at a time when I really needed it. I had had a rough week that included some disappointments from people and this quote struck a chord with me. I have seen quotes with the same meaning on two church signs within the past couple of weeks. Coincidence? Maybe. But I am a big believer in signs. Maybe this is a sign for me to be kinder……I am trying my best! But also a sign to thank the ones that are so kind to me. Your random texts or calls to let me know you are thinking of me always manage to come at a time when I really need them. A small gesture in your world but a really big one in mine! XO

Infusion with a view.